Hmmm, food for thought, quite a chunk. We always get inspirational quotes, motivational speeches and encouraging dialogues that moves us forward for whatever decision we have to make. Accepting a promotion, becoming a parent, getting married, that sort of life altering decision in life.
We need that, aware or not, that is one factor why we go ahead with a decision, when we get told to. I always had qualms, and most of the time my mind is made up but I just can’t go ahead sometimes, specially if it concerns other people’s welfare, I need an accomplice.
In my life, I always had my mentor, Pascale, she’s different from me like night and day, that was the first day I met her. She was my mentor, financial manager, for 10 years and had been the greatest motivator in my life. She never really told me what to do but she makes me ‘say’ what I want to do. She narrows everything down that made me select the best answer like a quiz. For the last 14 months I haven’t seen her yet as we are continents away. She made me believe and she made me who I am. She was and is the friend, adviser, boss, logical judge and french connoisseur, best I ever had. Thankful for the lessons given. The best advise she gave me was, I am great and I should believe I am. There is no better person who could think less or more of you than yourself.
Merci beaucoup Madame! Gros Bisous!
Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.
I took this picture on our way to Tofino, its a surfer’s dream place. We stopped on the road just to view the breathtaking coherence of the river with the rocks and the tress on the mountain reaching to the sky, melting the medley of a picturesque nature you would like to bask in for while.
Nature does it easy, its harmony could depict the happiness it sings to its audience. We, the capital observes, needs just to stop and listen. Witness what nature has to offer. Take the time to see what nature has to offer. It is there for the taking.
Us, as humans, as people, is always aspiring for the happiness. Harmony brings that about. Gandhi said it is when all the things you think, say and do comes together in a blend that compliments and jibes to a perfect rhythm then there is happiness. Easier said than done. Its the great analogy, but let’s put it in perspective.
We want to make our family happy, how do we do it? We work 2-3 jobs at a time to make ends meet, have food on the table and to make sure they don’t starve and have most things provided for the family. But where are you? Are they happy you are not there? Does your thinking of the family’s happiness coincide with what you did and say? I don’t think so. What is the solution to this? This is common, I see it everywhere and once I was of them. I worry on the pre planning stages, I worry on the tomorrow, I worry for the debt, I worry . . .
Perspective is the answer. going down to basics, stripping bare is the key. 2-3 jobs, yes that is needed to pay the mortgage. The answer, let it go and rent. Ooops but that’s investment! Errr, invest when there’s extra not when you are killing yourself without sleep to keep the gazebo. How about debts? Oh yeah, consolidate, get a financial adviser and yeah, to its extreme, declare bankruptcy, sounds radical, but this stops the rat race. Then you know, that is the time, you can finally watch the sunset with your kids playing around you and you sipping your coffee or wine biding your time.
I was given an advise by a wise old friend. The family needs the basic, do not over exert your self with things. The family needs the husband and wife, if with kids, then just the mom and dad. Make it simple. You are still called a family even if you didn’t go to the Euro tour like your neighbor did last spring.
If you are muddled by happiness, having difficulty with harmony, stop and think then do. I did that and I’m happy. Not perfect, not affluent but happy.